by Lori McNeil

Let’s be sincere… as girls we have now the higher hand…

… but most girls don’t acknowledge or notice precisely how that affect reveals itself.

What I’m referring to just isn’t about management, equality, or superiority. One phrase.


As girls, we’re stereotyped into being issues like:

A multi-tasker

A nurturer

A talker

A mover

All whereas being advised we’re much less more likely to be:



A voice of purpose

A frontrunner

We’re all these issues, and extra. Actually, we are able to make some normal assumptions about variations between women and men, nevertheless I’d argue that the majority girls embody all these above traits and but have the capability for extra.

Capability is what permits for multi-tasking to be efficient and centered.

Being a nurturer permits for us to see all sides of a scenario whereas being rational.

Speaking retains communication open which brings extra readability, which is the voice of purpose.

As a mover, you might be sure we received’t sit round and waste our day, which is commonly seen because the epitome of management.

I converse fairly a bit in my Media Secrets and techniques e book about methods to present up when striving to be featured in media, particularly main-stream media shops. How we present up makes all of the distinction (man or lady) and by no means goes unseen or unnoticed. Whereas it’s true that we by no means have a second likelihood to make a primary impression, we do have the chance to point out up constantly and rigorously.

Listed here are three ways in which we are able to direct the vitality circulate in any room, venue, circumstance, or scenario that we discover ourselves in.

○ giving vs getting

○ reply vs react

○ legacy vs leaving

Relying on which vitality we enter the room with will determine the circulate. When the vitality is reverse; exhibiting up with confidence and psychological management of our personal thoughts will trigger the present vitality to draw itself to us. Whether or not we are available with a constructive method or a unfavourable, we exacerbate the vitality.

If the room is constructive and we’re constructive, then we stage up the constructive. Identical goes if we stroll right into a room of negativity and we’re unfavourable.


If we stroll right into a unfavourable room with assured positivity, we are able to flip the vitality of the room round and vice versa if we stroll right into a constructive room with assured negativity, we are able to shut down the room.

Giving vs Getting

We all know it’s all the time higher to offer than to obtain. Additionally, that after we give, we additionally obtain nevertheless after we get, we not often give. Exhibiting up with a giving vitality whether or not in coronary heart, soul, thoughts, or physique, others will instantly grow to be drawn to it. That is one purpose why fundraising occasions have a lot success, as a result of individuals are within the giving spirit. By supporting a trigger, usually by giving cash, we really feel higher. Understanding that we’re supporting one thing that exists to raised somebody or some group makes most individuals elated.

Responding vs Reacting

When confronted with a circumstance, an altercation, a bit of knowledge, a dialog we are able to traverse them by both responding to it (which is often constructive) or we are able to react to it (usually unfavourable). Regardless if we agree with what’s going on, responding to an occasion is best than reacting to it. Consider (maybe morbid, however an amazing instance) a automobile accident. The paramedics on the scene are referred to as ‘first responders’ not first reactors as a result of they’re doing one thing constructive… on this case aiding somebody who’s damage. Quite the opposite, if we’re accused of one thing and discover ourselves in battle and react by deflecting or denying or deconstructing the opposite individuals stance the battle usually grows.

Legacy vs Leaving

This one is a bit completely different. This vitality circulate is extra about how the occasion you’re in concludes. Strolling away from the circumstance, the altercation, regardless of the occasion (it) is, has an amazing have an effect on on how the vitality continues. Exhibiting up with constructive vitality creates a legacy of consciousness and presence. When others really feel your consciousness and your presence to the scenario you grow to be centered, that voice of purpose. You’re the professional, the chief, the rational thinker. Exhibiting up with unfavourable vitality individuals will do every part they’ll to keep away from you, to go away the scenario and sooner or later will create partitions, construct limitations, and arrange boundaries to maintain you at a secure distance.

There you’ve it. Three energies that can design, direct, and decide circulate. Share your experiences with both the constructive or the unfavourable circulate and what outcomes you’ve had. I’d love to listen to your tales.



Worldwide Educator, Speaker, Writer, and Enterprise Coach, Lori helps entrepreneurs and organizations give attention to foundational instruments wanted for sustained success. As a Curriculum Designer and Enterprise Professor, Lori has helped develop a whole lot of organizations organically to construct a real, long-lasting goal. Lori has been featured on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, & numerous regional markets. She has authored / co-authored a number of books and works globally to help literacy, most cancers analysis, younger entrepreneurship, and army packages. Serving to elevate over three million for literacy, Lori was awarded the Lifetime Presidential Service Award for her work. For more information go to





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